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FMA Magazine Spring 2015

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21 www.FLmedical.org FLORIDA MEDICAL MAGAZINE SPRING 2015 dealing with the same stress and the same kind of hours, and they're basically acculturated in the same way," said Livingston, who has 30 years of experience working with physician couples and families. Tallahassee plastic surgeon Laurence Rosenberg, M.D., and his wife Lori Rosenberg, M.D., an OB/GYN, have had that shared experience during their 11 years of marriage. Dr. Laurence Rosenberg said there is a mutual understanding of the time commitment medicine requires as well as the strong bonds formed with patients. "We understand that the other person might want to go take care of a patient even if it's not their on-call night, just because of the connection we have to our patients and the responsibil- ity," he said. "It also makes it easier to talk about problems. We tend to be understanding of the fact that it's not just a job. It's our profession and we take it seriously. Some things just don't brush off of our shoulders easily." "If I have a patient who is going to deliver at 8 o'clock at night, he never questions that," said Dr. Lori Rosenberg. "He com- pletely understands." As Dr. Baker put it, "Sometimes the patient is going to take priority over something (at home) because it can be life or death. If you're a physician, you really get that." For Khalilah Weston, M.D., and Patrick Weston, M.D., medicine isn't just a mutual profession but a shared business venture. e St. Petersburg physicians, who met during their fi rst year of internship and fellowship respectively and have been married for one year, recently opened their Aria Health & Wellness Institute. Practicing alongside one another makes it easy for the Westons to be mutually supportive. "Sometimes the patient is going to take priority over something (at home) because it can be life or death. If you're a physician, you really get that." — Nancy Baker, M.D. "We try to strike a balance between working together and having a personal life," Dr. Patrick Weston said. "Our struggle has been to leave the work at work." e other side of the coin is that the rigor of a physician's life can make it diffi cult for two doctors who are married to each other to have quality time. A er dealing with long hours and a stressful day, both could come home exhausted and frazzled. " ere are days when I've had to give lots of people bad news," Dr. Baker said. "You come home and sometimes all you want to do is hide." And while every physician is diff erent, Livingston said doctors tend to have Type A personalities that, while an asset in medical practice, can lead to frustration at home. "At work, they have to be strong all the time and in charge," he said. " at creates friction sometimes in relationships." Dr. Khalilah Weston said she and her husband are very aware of the personality issue. "We're actually more cautious because of it. You know that the two of you have similar types of go-getter personalities and you can end up being too quiet so you don't cause confl ict," she said. "It's striking a balance between being Type A and being too aloof." With school-aged children at home, the Bakers and the Rosenbergs have to juggle busy careers with their family com- mitments. In order to fi nd a better balance, Dr. Lori Rosenberg cut her hours to go part-time when her second child was about six months old. "It's hard because you feel like when you're not full time, you're not doing everything you're supposed to be doing for your practice," she said. "But then when you're at work all the time and you don't come home for 36 hours, you feel guilty on the family end."

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